How to get over/cope with a bad breakup

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Hello my beauts, hope you are having a wonderful day! I was debating what to write about next for my blog post and decided to do a more life related post as opposed to makeup tutorials/advice. I have actually wanted to do this post for a while, so I thought well.. why not now?! Everyone goes through a bad breakup once in their life, whether it’s in their early years or now. Some people have not even gone through a really bad breakup yet, but I thought that I would provide tips and tricks on how to get your ex out of the picture for good. Going through a bad breakup can be so damaging , that you often do not want to even go out and see the world. Staying in your room, looking out the window and being a hermit is what appeals best to you at that time… am I right? I have been there where it literally feels like the end of the world, believe me. What I wish that I had known earlier was different tricks on how to overcome a damaging breakup, and get over that ex fast.  I have come up with different tips on how I personally overcame ex boyfriends.

1). Delete him off everything. Yes, you heard me. You need him gone, and off of absolutely everything you can think of. Being girls, we often like to stalk and lurk our ex to make sure he  hasn’t moved on yet. Yes, we all have done it, don’t deny it. By doing this, you are just hurting yourself! Why make yourself sick by doing this when in the long run, he is going to move on… it’s human nature. Just think, you are eventually going to move on as well when the time comes. By deleting him off all social media sites such as Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and blocking his number in general, you don’t have to come across anything you do not want to see .You simply are one step closer to taking him out of your life for good and that’s what you want. Often unwanted pictures will come up on Instagram with girls flirting and all that, which you do not want to see. By seeing this, it completely ruins your day and makes you want to isolate yourself. Personally while going through breakups, I complete this step in the process and it has helped me so much. Not only do I not get to see what goes on in his life anymore, but you don’t have to worry about being bothered by unwanted information.

2). Write a list of pros and cons about that specific breakup. This is a very important step to do as it lets you see what exactly was healthy and unhealthy in that specific breakup. Often we are blinded and do not really see how much that individual has hurt you in your relationship and how overall.. it was never healthy. Our friends may tell us specifically a hundred times that you are involved in an unhealthy relationship but we never actually want to believe it. Writing things down for yourself and seeing first hand all the pros and cons will make you feel better about your decision overall. While completing this process, I have noticed first hand how many cons were actually in my relationships as opposed to pros. It really makes you think.

3). Talk to someone. It always is better when going through and coping with a breakup to let your feelings out. Having all your feelings bottled up through this process is an awful feeling to go through, so having someone there to talk to always helps out. Even if you talk to a friend, a family member, or just anyone willing to listen will help out a bunch. Tell them everything that is on your mind, or any feelings that you are currently feeling. They then can offer you really good advice and maybe express their views on the whole situation.

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4). Keep busy. Often when you are going through a breakup you do not want to do anything and you just want to isolate yourself from the world. Trust me… I have been there and done that. This often makes you feel even more crappy and depressed. You need to make sure you are keeping busy as much as you can! Whether it be drawing, going on walks, going to the gym, going out with friends or just watching movies. Doing things at all times helps you not become so depressed and isolated with the world. This gives you something to do and keeps your mind off of everything that has been going on which has been bringing you down.

5). Keep a journal. It always helps to write things out so that you can keep track of all your emotions that you are experiencing. I found that keeping a journal and writing down how my day went helped me cope better. Often if I am having a really good day I write that down and what I did for it to go so well. I then look back on my not so good days and think to myself “I do not want to feel like that again“.

6).Taking care of your mind and body. Often us girls tend to think “he broke up with me because I wasn’t skinny enough, or I don’t look good enough”. You can’t start thinking such negative thoughts about yourself if you want to move on and enjoy your life. Obviously it is his loss that he does not get to have you involved in his life anymore, and there is nothing that you did wrong appearance wise. Thinking positively and having a more positive outlook on yourself will help you get through this process, and you won’t feel so depressed. Do not go on any diets to improve how you look or change things about yourself. By doing this you are letting him win. Try to still hold your head high and think positive thoughts only. Reassure yourself that “you are better than that“, or “you can do better“. Saying these quotes in the mirror to yourself will help build your confidence and self-worth. Overall within the relationship you broke up because somebody was not happy and it wasn’t working.  Try saying different positive quotes each day to yourself.

7). Hang up inspirational/motivational sayings or quotes. This step ties into number 6 but I strongly believe using this technique. While going through one of my hard and rough breakups, I taped around my room different saying that were positive and upbeat. I simply looked on Pinterest different sayings and printed them out. Some of these sayings may include “You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think,and loved more than you’ll ever know“, or “Start each day with a grateful heart“, and even “Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day“. Sayings and quotes like these help brighten your room, and make it full of positive energy as opposed to negative. These have really helped me, and they help you wake up from your sleep in a better and more upbeat mood when you notice them around your room.

left_me_with_a_broken_heart_by_lababyrocking92-d31jd0f8). Do things in life that YOU love. Often in unhealthy relationships you forget who you are as an individual and person.You sometimes forget what you love doing, so why not do those things now? You are your own person, and there is only one of you in this world. Make a list of different things that you want to start doing or completing.  This in turn, will help you stay busy and will keep you determined to do things. Even trying new things in your life will make you feel more satisfied and accomplished. These feelings will help you over come all those negative emotions that are running through your head. Doing a bunch of things or activities that you love doing will make you feel proud of yourself.

9). Take a day to dwell. When you are going through a breakup it is okay to take a day and cry it out. Sometimes when we are trying to overcome a serious breakup we try to act tough, which in turn could just be hurting yourself even more. It’s okay to set aside an hour on a specific day to let out how you are feeling. Tell yourself “after that hour has passed, I am going to be okay”.  Often by picking a specific time during that day to dwell and let it all out, will help you become motivated to be more positive when that time is up.Nobody is perfect, and it is okay to cry.

10). Try the dating scene again. Of course do not rush into this step if you are not ready. After a rough breakup often girls feel like they are “alone” or “no one else will want to be with them”. This is never the case. There is always someone out there for each person, it’s just the matter of being patient and finding them. If one relationship does not work out, try out another one. Write a list of what did not appeal to you about your last relationship and that specific person. When you are ready to jump into the dating world again, go for somebody different.  Do not feel like you can never date again!

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Thank you for reading my blog beauties! If you have any comments or questions feel free to comment down below! Comment below what tips and tricks work best for you when going through those hard times! Please feel free to like and follow my blog!

Much love xo.

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